Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.
~ John Quincy Adams ~
Several years ago, I started to play Sudoku and Solitaire to distract my mind from the things that I could not control. These games were usually played when I had too much time on my hands. There has always been a direct correlation between my stress level and the difficulty, and/or ability to concentrate, in completing a given puzzle. As my stress level has returned to a normal everyday stress, I have added FreeCell and Spider Solitaire to my group of mind games. I have noticed, especially in Spider Solitaire, that when a puzzle reaches a point where it cannot be solved, going back several steps and looking for a different solution will lead to success. In some cases it requires restarting from the beginning and trying several paths to complete a puzzle.
As I have distracted my mind, I have seen a parallel between the puzzles and the problems in life. Sometimes the solution is obvious and other times it may take several attempts to resolve. But unlike most puzzles, some problems in life do not have a solution no matter how much we try. At some point it is best to let a problem go and find a different path to travel. Change is never easy but it can lead one to a far better place than a broken or toxic relationship.
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
~ Aristotle ~